The Midlife Courage Project is for women in their 40's and 50's who are ready to bring some big, bold dreams to life.
As the Founder of the Midlife Courage Project, I am creating this project based on my own experiences, desires and feelings during the past few years.
As I celebrated my 50th birthday in March, I found myself craving a community of women who - like me - have felt inspired by their "big" birthdays to make some big changes in their lives or to pursue some of the dreams that they have put on hold for years or even decades.
What are the dreams you’ve put on hold?
Maybe you want to start your own business.
Or perhaps you’re beyond ready to find a career that lights you up instead of staying in a career that is burning you out.
Maybe you’ve talked for years about this book you desperately want to write.
Or perhaps you have this “crazy” idea that you want to try stand-up comedy.
Maybe it's a yearning to travel the world or to take Argentine Tango lessons in Buenos Aires.
Or perhaps it's finally taking better care of yourself physically after too many years of running yourself into the ground.
Maybe it's reconnecting with a childhood passion - like starting to play piano again after 30+ years or going horse riding again for the first time in decades.
Or perhaps it's turning your passion for photography into your very first exhibition or starting a photography business so that you can earn a living doing work that you love.
Maybe it's ending a relationship or adjusting to the end of a relationship. Trying to figure out who you are now that you're not defined by your relationship to that person any more.
Or perhaps you know that in so many ways you have barely scratched the surface of your potential and the weight of that regret gets heavier by the day.
Maybe it is some gorgeous multi-faceted combination of a few of the above dreams.
I know that in so many ways I have barely scratched the surface of my potential and it's not overly dramatic or melancholic to say that time is running out to do the things I really, really, really want to do.
So The Midlife Courage Project is for me and for women like me. For women who know that they want to start living more courageously. To dig deeper. To bring their bigger dreams to life.
To live a life that
will create an irresistible obituary.
Once upon a time, I was a little girl who loved to create characters and write plays and perform them with my then best-friend. If I'd known then that you could grow up to be Catherine Tate or Tina Fey, that is what I would have wanted to grow up to be.
Around my teens, I lost touch with that little girl and ended up studying law and becoming a lawyer. I felt like I was the lawyer in "Beaches" when I really, really, really wanted to be the Bette Midler character.
At age 26, I moved to New York for six months. During the past 25 years, I've gone from being a lawyer to a business owner with some stand up comedy and improv thrown in for good measure. I feel like I'm growing more and more into that little girl.
When I moved to New York, I was only supposed to stay for 6 months so I lived life to the full! I did things that I had always wanted to try - like Latin dance lessons and horse riding lessons. The dance lessons in 1994 ultimately led me to the man who would become my husband in 1998. We are now the very proud parents of Eva (19), Francesca (17) and Leo (12) together with our dog Milo.
While pregnant with my oldest daughter, my husband gave me the gift of a 10 week session of comedy writing and performing classes at Gotham Writers Workshop. With a fire and a baby in my belly, I performed stand up comedy for the first time at Stand Up, NY in 1999.
During the past decade and a half, I have performed stand up comedy in many New York comedy clubs including Caroline's Comedy Club where I have performed a number of times.
A couple of years ago, I discovered improv comedy which I love and which has been a great tool to add to my coaching tools! I've studied improv and writing at the People's Improv Theater in New York.
During my 25 years in New York, I have met some wonderful individuals such as Martha Beck and Patti Digh whose books transformed my life in many ways.
In 2004, I read "Finding Your Own North Star" by Martha Beck, the wickedly talented and funny writer, life coach and columnist for O, the Oprah Magazine. As soon as I finished the book, I emailed Martha to find out if she trained people to coach people in her coaching method. I trained with her that year and was one of the first twenty coaches certified by her.
In 2005, I started a new business while newly pregnant with my son, Leo (which I didn't know at the time!). That business grew into a thriving local studio, Creative Groove Studio, which offered music, art and dance classes to toddlers and a pre-school readiness program. Although I am enormously proud of Creative Groove, the decade I spent building it taught me a great deal about how NOT to run a business. That hard-earned wisdom has become invaluable to me as I launch my coaching practice and as I coach other entrepreneurs to build a strong foundation for their new businesses or to take their existing business to the next level.
In 2006, I qualified as a Reach Branding Strategist and in 2009, I became a Master Life Coach with Martha Beck.
As part of my Master Coach training, I experienced Equus coaching. I am currently an Equus coach in training and I will be working with clients at stables in New York and New Jersey starting in the Fall. Having experienced this work as a client, I can honestly say that it is one of the most profound experiences I have ever had - truly life changing. I am beyond excited to share it with my clients. Click here to read an article in O Magazine about Equus Coaching.
In 2016, I trained as a Quiet Power Strategy Certified Strategist with Tara McMullin and launched Ink: The Story Studio where I work with aspiring and established creative business owners to help them to share their business’ most compelling story.
I believe with every fiber of my being that we are all born with a set of skills, talents and beliefs that blend perfectly to allow us to do extraordinary things in the work and to create an irresistible legacy. I've seen it in the skills I have and the work I want to do in the world. I've seen it in all 3 of my children and I very much want their childhood years to become a solid foundation for them to build their adult life upon.
Too often though, we lose connection with who we are during our teenage years and the foundation for our adult lives becomes shaky. Making decisions from that shaky foundation can lead us further and further from who we were born to be. We start to live someone else's story instead of our own.
The work I do in the world is helping people to strengthen their existing foundation or build an entirely new foundation later in life. To get clear on who they really are and the story they want to live. Once they are clear on the story (or at least the first chapter of the story), we then work to craft a strategy that will take them from where they are now to where they want to be.
I believe that when you are clear about the story you want to live, you can then take action and make decisions based on that story. A life that will be so much more interesting and satisfying than a life built around someone else's story.
It's time to "continually and stubbornly bring forth the jewels that are hidden within you." That is the Big Magic I want to pursue in my own life.
And that is the Big Magic that I want to support you to uncover in your own life.
Care to join me in the courageous pursuit of Big Magic?