365 Days of Courage #102: "When you fall in love with the process rather than the product ..."
This quote sums up beautifully why it's so important to "forget the noun and do the verb" (which I talked about earlier in the week).
When we "fall in love with the process rather than the product" we can take our happiness off hold. We're not waiting for some moment in the future to arrive before we can be happy or satisfied or fulfilled. We can be happy right here in this moment as we do the verb and forget the noun.
The book "Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones" by James Clear is next on my to-read list. I've already implemented advice from the book from interviews I've heard with the author. Advice that has already changed my life for the better.
Click here to listen to a fantastic episode of the Unmistakable Creative podcast when Srini Rao interviewed James Clear about the Atomic Habits book.
In his newsletter yesterday, James Clear included an excerpt from Chapter 1 of the book. The title of the newsletter was "Forget About Setting Goals. Focus on This Instead." He opens the newsletter with:
He says that goals are good for setting a direction, but systems are best for making progress. Problems arise when we spend too much time thinking about our goals and not enough time designing our systems.
I have written more this year since implementing a system of writing daily when I first sit down at my desk and posting that writing on my blog, on Instagram and Facebook than I did in the previous 5 years when I've had a goal of writing a book but no system in place to, well, actually write on a consistent basis.
The 50+ posts that I have written this year are a huge step towards writing that book but, more importantly than that, I have fallen in love with sitting down at my desk each morning and writing. I'm happier when I write regularly than when I don't.
The reason I started The Midlife Courage Project is because I could see in my own life and in friends and clients’ lives that SO many of us are putting our happiness on hold. We are deferring pleasure and joy until some point - often some point that may never arrive - in the future.
What a heartbreaking waste of our precious time here on earth.
I am learning and truly understanding more and more each day that I have mastered some truly awful habits over the past few decades. Habits that sabotage rather than support me in living my happiest and most fulfilling life.
That is why I love what James Clear says about habits. Slowly but surely we can do the two-leveled work of not only breaking bad habits BUT ALSO implementing good habits. Habits that build a daily system that allows us to enjoy our life now.
As Brene Brown so beautifully says about “midlife”:
Are you ready to give yourself permission to be happy right here, right now?
I would love to hear from you if you have read “Atomic Habits”. How has changing your habits transformed your life?