365 Days of Courage #5: "I always wanted to be somebody .."
This is one of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite comedians and actors, the one and only Lily Tomlin. Talking of Lily Tomlin, the fifth season of "Grace and Frankie" starts on January 18th! I can't wait!!
If you feel like there's something off in your life or that you're not living the life that you thought you would be at this age or that you have only scraped the surface of your potential, I find that it can be really, really, really helpful to get specific on who it is you really want to be (spoiler alert: which tends to be who you were before life turned you into someone else).
Instead of setting New Year's Resolutions, I am taking some time to get really, really, really clear about the "someone" I want to be. To do this, I create a vision of what I want my life to look and feel like in 3 to 5 years' time and then creating a plan for the projects I want to accomplish and the experiences I want to have in the next 12 months that will get me closer to achieving that longer term vision.
Once I have got clear on what I want to focus on during the next 12 months, I will then set a plan for the next 90 days based on the book, "The 12 Week Year". I use this book with all of my business coaching clients and I find it a brilliant framework for your personal life too.
So as you embark upon 2019, I encourage you to set aside an hour or so to do the following:
Write down a detailed description of the life you want to be living in January 2022.
Where do you want to be living?
Who will you be spending your days with?
Which friends will you be spending time with? Maybe you envision a circle of friends that you haven't met yet? That's good information to have as you plan for the year ahead and think of how and where you might make new friends.
What work do you want to be doing?
Where will you be doing that work - describe your ideal work environment - both the physical environment and the people you would love to work with?
What hobbies and interests will you be pursuing?
What meals will you be cooking or what type of restaurants do you want to be eating in?
Where will you go on vacation? Describe the vacations you want to take in detail.
What concerts/plays/operas/exhibitions do you want to go to or to have gone to between now and then?
What clothes will you be wearing? Describe your style in detail.
What books/authors do you want to be reading or to have read between now and then?
Describe an ideal day (not a special occasion - just an ordinary day) - describe it from the moment you wake up until you go to bed that night in as much detail as you can. It is wonderful to include as many sensory details as you possibly can as you describe your day.
This exercise takes time but trust me when I tell you that it is a wonderful investment of your time and energy. I highly recommend coming back to it and fleshing out more details on an ongoing basis. You can also create a vision board that visually depicts some of the things, places and people that you want to experience.
I would love to hear from you after you have completed this exercise. Were you surprised by some of the things you want to do and experience?