Step Six:
”Put your ass where your heart wants to be.”



THIS is what it comes down to. Put your ass where your heart wants to be. If you want to write a book, sit your ass down at your desk and write. If you want to take yoga classes 3 times a week to help you to feel calmer and more grounded, take your ass and put it in a yoga class 3 times a week. If you want to launch a business or an exhibit of your photography, put your ass where it needs to be so that your heart's desire can be brought to life.

At the end of each day, Steven asks himself just one question: "Did I overcome resistance today?"

That's really all that we need to do, day in and day out.

But here's the thing, dear friend. And this is the freaking snake in the grass.

"The more important an activity is to your soul's evolution, the more resistance you will feel to it. The more fear you will feel."

So the more meaningful that your dream is to you, the more resistance you are going to feel towards going after it. The more your ass will resist being put where it needs to be for that dream to be realized. And, damn, it's shocking how stubborn an ass can be.

So take a moment to thank your fear and your resistance for showing up and reminding you how important this dream is to you. And then ... put your ass where it needs to be.

Click here to watch Oprah's Supersoul Conversation with Steven Pressfield which I'm on my third time listening to because it is rich with so many nuggets of wisdom.


Fear is something that will ALWAYS show up when you're about to pursue something new - especially something creative, inventive or innovative. It is something that is hardwired into our DNA and something that we can’t physically stop from happening. It is a physical response whenever we embark upon something new or unknown.

I’m sure you have had the experience of making a plan that you’re excited about and you go to bed feeling full of optimism and enthusiasm. Then the next morning you wake up with this weird feeling in the pit of your stomach. A feeling of dread or anxiety or just a general sense that something is wrong and WHAT WERE YOU THINKING when you made the plan and who do you think you are?

In her book, “Big Magic: creative living beyond fear”, Elizabeth Gilbert writes beautifully about fear:


Trust me, fear will always show up - especially when you’re trying to be inventive or innovative. Your fear will always be triggered by your creativity, because creativity asks you to enter into realms of uncertain outcome, and fear hates uncertain outcome. Your fear - programmed by evolution to be hypervigilant and insanely protective - will always assume that any uncertain outcome is destined to end in a bloody, horrible death. Basically, your fear is like a mall cop who thinks he’s a Navy SEAL. He hasn’t slept in days, he’s all hopped up on Red Bull, and he’s liable to shoot at his own shadow in an absurd effort to keep everyone “safe”.

This is all totally natural and human. It’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. It is, however, something that very much needs to be dealt with.
— Elizabeth Gilbert

So this is what we will be doing in this final step of the process: dealing with the fears and the resistance that will show up when you are ready to embark upon a new chapter as certainly as a printer will run out of ink exactly when you most urgently need to print something!

I will share tools, resources and daily habits that will help you to embrace fear as an inevitable companion on this journey and help you to learn to live beyond fear. These resources will help you to get used to the sensations of fear so that you don’t let them disrupt you from living the life you’re craving. A life that is “a happier life, an expanded life, and a hell of a lot more interesting life.”


Fear is the thief of dreams and the sinister thing about fear is that it often comes disguised as wisdom.

It often sounds like, “Are you sure you want to ...?” “Wouldn’t it be better if you...?” “Maybe you should wait until ...?”
— Todd Henry