Are you ready to make your next chapter an absolute page-turner?
To live a life that creates an irresistible obituary.
As a woman who celebrated my 50th birthday on March 15th 2018, I have been experiencing the sense that "it's time" first hand.
As a culture, we talk about what happens at midlife as a crisis. Which sets us up for resignation and regret. It can seem like it's too late to fulfill some of our bigger dreams.
To me, it feels more like an opportunity than a crisis. We can choose to see the "big" birthdays as an opportunity for reflection, for reimagining what is possible and, perhaps, for reinvention.
I created The Midlife Courage Project because I believe - wholeheartedly - that, at midlife, it's too late NOT to pursue some of your bigger and bolder dreams.
If there are things that you've always wanted to do, later is here. It's time.
So while I wholeheartedly believe that it’s not too late to pursue your most meaningful dreams, I equally believe that it’s not overly dramatic to say that time is running out to do the things you really, really, really want to do.
I created Your Next Chapter Map for me and for women like me. For women who know that they want to start living more courageously. To dig deeper. To bring their bigger dreams to life. To live an irresistible obituary.
Why don’t we do the things that make us feel most fully alive?
One obvious reason is that we are so overwhelmed and busy doing things that don’t make us feel alive.
A couple of years ago, a client told me that she felt like she had to figure out how to make being an accountant work. That she should "suck it up."
I told that client "you didn't hire a coach to figure out how to suck it up better."
And yet, as a society, that's what we often try to do and what we've been raised to do - to suck it up better. We work harder and longer, we lean in further and further until we completely lose sight of anything that truly matters. We become more and more connected to work or lives or relationships that drain us while becoming less and less connected to the people, things and places that fill us up. As a society, we wear stress and overwhelm as badges of achievement which can make it all the harder to change our behavior. If everyone else is sucking it up, why shouldn't we?
In a vain attempt to uncrush our souls a little, we buy more stuff or overeat or overdrink while binge-watching Netflix. Anything to distract ourselves from the fact that we are sucking it up.
So, there’s that.
But in addition to how busy and overwhelmed we are as a society, I have found in my own life and in my clients’ lives that, when we feel stuck or when we don’t pursue our most meaningful life, one or more of three things is happening:
You’re not completely sure what it is that you want to achieve, explore or experience. You might not know what you do want but you do know that you’re not happy with how things are right now. You thought that your life at this age would be very different than it is and you’re ready to do something about it. You might have spent years or decades living someone else’s definition of “success” and you are now finding that it feels increasingly hollow and disappointing to you. Or you might love many aspects of your life and have had an amazing career but you still have this constant nagging sensation that you’re ready for something bigger. That you’re ready to do work or pursue dreams that every step you’ve taken in your life so far has prepared you for. But, and this is a big but, you genuinely can’t get a sense of what it is exactly that you want to change or pursue; or
You know exactly what you want to change or do or pursue in this next chapter of your life but you can’t figure out the “how” of the changes you want to make. You’re at a loss as to how to get from where you are now to where you want to be; or
You know what you want and you have a pretty clear idea of what you would need to do to make it happen but you just can't seem to find the time, energy or courage to make the changes you want to make or the thing that you want to do seems “too big” so you keep talking yourself out of pursuing it. You are starting to realize that the biggest thing getting in your way is you. This has been my personal favorite - I could have earned a PhD in procrastination but I never got round to it ...
Your Next Chapter Map was designed to help you to overcome these obstacles:
I will help you to get clearer on what it is you want to do or achieve or experience in this next chapter if you’re feeling confused or unsure about what it is you want to do or which dreams you want to pursue.
If you know what it is that you want to do (for example, you know you want to start a business but you’re not sure how to make that happen), I will help you to figure out the how to go from where you are in your life right now to where you want to be.
If it were easy to make these changes, you would have done so already. It isn’t easy to make bigger changes and having a coach in your corner can make all the difference in the world. I will be here to encourage you, to support you, to give you a perspective that is hard for you to see by yourself and to be a passionate defender of your dreams if I sense that you are falling into old patterns of self-sabotage.
So how does Your Next Chapter Map work?
To create Your Next Chapter Map, we will work through a six-step process.
You will receive a video or audio recording for each step plus additional resources (books, podcasts or articles that dig deeper into the material for that step) plus worksheets to complete.
You also receive 6 or 12 hours of coaching time with me to support you as you go through the process. You can choose 6 coaching calls with me over a 3 month period or 12 coaching calls with me over a 6 month period. If you want to create Your Next Chapter Map more quickly and you have time to do a lot of work in a short period of time, we can work more intensively together over a shorter period - for example, you can book a 2 day retreat with me to go through the process in person.
You might have a specific goal or project in mind that you would like to map out or reverse-engineer with me. For example, you might already know that you want to start your own business and that is what you want to focus on. Or you might have a vague idea of some of the things that you would like to achieve and experience and you would like support in creating the focus and framework to decide which of those things you want to prioritize.
As your coach, I will meet you where you are. However, I passionately believe that the process I have created for Your Next Chapter Map gives you a framework that will be invaluable not only for the change or changes you want to make now but as a framework you can use again and again as your life continues to evolve during the years ahead.
You will have lifetime access to the recordings, resources and worksheets (plus any updates).